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On Love — On loving and being loved

• [audio] Men Aren't From Mars — 15 Nov 2025
  Men and women engage in identical behaviours—complaining, offering solutions, needing validation, resisting criticism. The difference isn’t biological, it’s interpretive. We cast the same behaviour as reasonable for one gender and unreasonable for the other. Gray’s book is a perfect case study: emotionally troubled men are normalised while women’s ordinary needs are pathologised.
• [marginalium] Romantic Friendships — 24 Jun 2025
• [marginalium] Love is about betterment — 24 Jun 2025
• [marginalium] Singleness and the Pandemic Dating Recession — 1 Mar 2025
• [marginalium] Fertility slowdown not due to higher female incomes — 14 Feb 2025
• [article] BDSM as a lazy ideology — 17 Jan 2025
  BDSM is an ideology stack—a collection of behaviours borne of a culture that surrounds some core set of human needs. But is it lazy? Hard to tell. It seems easy to explain away parts of it as hormone hijacking and socialisation, but there is something deeper there.
• [marginalium] The Myth Of The Loneliness Epidemic — 27 Nov 2024
• [marginalium] The neuroscience of heartbreak — 27 Nov 2024
• [marginalium] The Horizon Of Desire — 11 Oct 2024
• [article] Men and women are from earth, fool pt. III — 27 Sep 2024
  This book is basically, “men are terribly emotionally fragile, and they can make small steps to be better, but women need to just <em>stop bothering them with all their pedantry</em> and just let them be who they are.”
• [article] Men and women are from earth, fool pt. II — 20 Sep 2024
  I guarantee, no matter how sexy traditional gender roles are to you, that you do <em>not</em> want to be like Gray’s ‘men’.
• [article] Men and women are from earth, fool pt. I — 13 Sep 2024
  Not only is there is absolutely no difference between men and women in how they complain or offer criticism, but the ‘men’ Gray describe could be used as textbook example of people with social anxiety.
• [marginalium] A touching suicide pact? — 10 Aug 2024
• [marginalium] On Turing's 1952 ChatGPT — 21 Jul 2024
• [marginalium] The adoption paradox — 12 Jul 2024