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• [audio] You Can Catch Madness — 13 Jun 2026
  <em>Folie à deux</em> isn’t a rare clinical curiosity. It’s one misleading face of social isolation—intimacy plus loneliness, the same machinery running in all of us. The spectacular cases are selection bias. You can catch it.
• [article] Folie à deux: the madness of two — 4 Jun 2026
  <em>Folie à deux</em>, or the ‘madness of two’, is the kind of psychological phenomenon that occasionally captures the imagination of the media. Two people, otherwise normal, suddenly go insane. It’s a premise that we can ghoulishly enjoy from afar because it seems like it could never happen to us. But I’m not so sure. From intra-family murder to Theranos to our own odder moments, I think shared madness is something that is much more common than you’d think. ideology: | <em>Folie</em> à deux is a striking phenomenon, but poorly understood. It seems to me that it might be just one misleading face of social isolation.
• [article] Useful Men — 4 Apr 2026
  It’s true that the ‘pathways’ to manhood are closing. I don’t think it’s a crisis of masculinity though. It’s a crisis of no more excuses for incompetence. We’re trying to find the meaning of manhood when what we actually need are new skills. Men just need to be useful.
• [audio] Men Aren't From Mars — 15 Nov 2025
  Men and women aren’t wired differently. We read the same behaviour as reasonable in him and unreasonable in her—normalising troubled men while pathologising women’s ordinary needs.
• [marginalium] Romantic Friendships — 24 Jun 2025
• [marginalium] Love is about betterment — 24 Jun 2025
• [marginalium] Singleness and the Pandemic Dating Recession — 1 Mar 2025
• [marginalium] Fertility slowdown not due to higher female incomes — 14 Feb 2025
• [article] BDSM as a lazy ideology — 17 Jan 2025
  BDSM is an ideology stack—a collection of behaviours borne of a culture that surrounds some core set of human needs. But is it lazy? Hard to tell. It seems easy to explain away parts of it as hormone hijacking and socialisation, but there is something deeper there.
• [marginalium] The Myth Of The Loneliness Epidemic — 27 Nov 2024
• [marginalium] The neuroscience of heartbreak — 27 Nov 2024
• [marginalium] The Horizon Of Desire — 11 Oct 2024
• [article] Men and women are from earth, fool pt. III — 27 Sep 2024
  This book is basically, “men are terribly emotionally fragile, and they can make small steps to be better, but women need to just <em>stop bothering them with all their pedantry</em> and just let them be who they are.”
• [article] Men and women are from earth, fool pt. II — 20 Sep 2024
  I guarantee, no matter how sexy traditional gender roles are to you, that you do <em>not</em> want to be like Gray’s ‘men’.
• [article] Men and women are from earth, fool pt. I — 13 Sep 2024
  Not only is there is absolutely no difference between men and women in how they complain or offer criticism, but the ‘men’ Gray describe could be used as textbook example of people with social anxiety.