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• [audio] Men Aren't From Mars — 15 Nov 2025
  Men and women engage in identical behaviours—complaining, offering solutions, needing validation, resisting criticism. The difference isn’t biological, it’s interpretive. We cast the same behaviour as reasonable for one gender and unreasonable for the other. Gray’s book is a perfect case study: emotionally troubled men are normalised while women’s ordinary needs are pathologised.
• [marginalium] Romantic Friendships — 24 Jun 2025
• [article] Men and women are from earth, fool pt. III — 27 Sep 2024
  This book is basically, “men are terribly emotionally fragile, and they can make small steps to be better, but women need to just <em>stop bothering them with all their pedantry</em> and just let them be who they are.”
• [article] Men and women are from earth, fool pt. II — 20 Sep 2024
  I guarantee, no matter how sexy traditional gender roles are to you, that you do <em>not</em> want to be like Gray’s ‘men’.
• [article] Men and women are from earth, fool pt. I — 13 Sep 2024
  Not only is there is absolutely no difference between men and women in how they complain or offer criticism, but the ‘men’ Gray describe could be used as textbook example of people with social anxiety.
• [marginalium] The Perfection Of The Paper Clip — 5 Sep 2023
• [marginalium] The honesty of pornography — 20 Mar 2023
• [marginalium] On ‘romantic friendship’ — 24 Feb 2023
• [marginalium] On the value of nurture — 18 Feb 2023
• [marginalium] Social media and teenage mental health — 7 Jan 2023
• [marginalium] The gossip trap — 6 Dec 2022
• [marginalium] Not new, but the crisis of masculinity — 16 Nov 2022
• [marginalium] Not just IQ or EQ, but CQ — 15 Oct 2022
• [marginalium] Detailed article on the ‘origin’ of the two-spirit concept in Native American culture — 7 Sep 2022
• [article] Explaining group dynamics — 29 Mar 2022
  Group dynamics are often thought to be a complicated thing to explore. But a 50-year-old model explains much of it with only three things: a need for Belonging, for Affection, and for Control.