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• [article] Are homosexuals and heterosexuals different when it comes to relationships? — 22 Apr 2014
  We talk about a lot of really basic, fundamental concepts here at The Dirt Psychology especially about how romance and love work. What I get asked is whether it all applies to homosexuals too? In this article, I answer that question so you don’t have to wonder
• [article] Five kinds of arguments that get us nowhere — 18 Apr 2014
  There are five patterns of arguing are both particularly common and particularly problematic. Invariably, they end badly.
• [article] Four common problems men and women have when talking to each other — 15 Apr 2014
  Men and women are typically not so different. But, when it comes to communication, certain common patterns of communication breakdown do seem to have gendered origins. Here, we explore them.
• [article] Who else wants to know what the point of love is? — 11 Apr 2014
  We’ve spoken about what we think love is made up of; for friends, family and lovers. We’ve also covered why our love gets stronger. But I’m sure you, like many are wondering what the point of love is at all. Well, in this article I’m going to tell you (and it might just leave you thinking…)
• [article] Why some people are 'cold', others are 'clingy', and some just can't let go — 4 Apr 2014
  Why are some people ‘cold’ and distant in relationships while others are too ‘clingy’? Why do some people have trouble letting go, and others let go too quickly? Attachment theory, one of the cruxes of social psychology, has many answers for us.
• [article] How to make any fight in your relationship work in your favour — 28 Mar 2014
  We all fight with our friends, family and partners.Sometimes more often, sometimes less. Bet you didn’t know that fighting can be awesome. It can actually make your relationship better! In this article I talk about how as well as what kind of fights to avoid.
• [article] The five types of couple and the 'magic' rule for relationship stability — 25 Mar 2014
  John Gottman figured out that every couple is one of five types. Three are good, two are not. Each has at it’s core an adherence to Gottman’s ‘magic’ rule, the single greatest predictor of relationship breakdown. Which type of couple are you?
• [article] Five ways of thinking that'll spell relationship trouble — 14 Mar 2014
  These five ways of thinking are some of the most common beliefs about relationships. The problem is that they are completely and utterly wrong. Are you thinking in a way that’s going to mess up your relationship? Find out!
• [article] Is being 'gay' a choice? Science says yes (but not in the way you're thinking) — 11 Mar 2014
  This article is less about the various ways in which people like to define themselves, and far more about the various things academics and health professionals care about (for better or worse). So, we’ll go over some illuminating statistics and then discuss the academic opinion on choice and orientation. The answer won’t surprise you—of course these things aren’t really a choice. But the journey might be illuminating for those outside this clinical sphere.
• [article] Sex is about more than making babies — 7 Mar 2014
  Psychologists are eager to discuss the baby-making potential of sex and how it drives us. Many others concentrate on sex as a form of pleasure. But sex is a complicated behaviour, with complicated motivations. It seems sensible to talk about those quieter motivations given the large role sex plays in our societies.
• [article] Why people think they're your friend (when they aren't) — 1 Mar 2014
  <p>We’ve talked before about the <a href="https://btr.mt/analects/gottman-couple-typology">four types of relationships we can have with other people</a> (and we advise you to check that short post out before reading on). There are relationships that are b…
• [article] How to never get mad again (kind of) — 17 Feb 2014
  Trying to define ‘emotion’ is an almost futile enterprise. It’s a vague concept that continues to trouble researchers today. That said, some models have more practical utility than others, and the ‘interruption theory’ of emotion is one of the more beautiful in its simplicity.
• [article] The Four Types of Relationships — 13 Feb 2014
  It can be hard to figure out why some of your ‘friends’ leave you drained and annoyed, while others leave you fulfilled and happy. It can be even harder to know who is taking advantage of you. This article describes the four kinds of relationship dynamics we see, and how each adds or removes value from your social circle.
• [article] Four Sure Signs Your Relationship is on the Rocks — 11 Feb 2014
  Ever wonder whether your relationship is in danger? Well in this article, The Dirt Psychology gives you the dirt on the four clearest signals your relationship needs some vital attention.
• [article] What's Love Got to do With It? — 28 Nov 2013
  We often think of love as the be-all and end all of a relationship. It turns out, that love doesn’t really have much to do with how strongly we feel for someone.