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• [article] What we want in our partners (it's more simple than you think) — 26 Aug 2014
  There’s a lot of conflicting information out there regarding who wants what out of a relationship. But there are three things that almost everyone, across all cultures seem to value more than anything else.
• [article] Don't always believe what you read — 27 Jun 2014
  Science is hard. That’s why scientists are still around sciencing. In this article, we talk about one of the reasons psychology (and many other sciences) are flawed, and what YOU need to know to be more effective at applying it to your life.
• [article] How to never get mad again (kind of) (part two) — 23 Jun 2014
  Ever feel like emotions rule you sometimes? You’re not alone. We get emails on this topic every week. Well, in this article we give you a checklist psychologists use to determine why we feel the emotions we feel so you can hijack your brain and turn those emotions into your slaves (not the other way around).
• [article] The four most common causes of conflict in relationships — 5 Jun 2014
  Relationships are a source of many conflicts, both large and small. The small ones often seem easier to ignore. These can be the most pernicious. Four of the most common, in fact, are also common roads to ruin.
• [article] Making good first impressions - a quick guide to presence — 1 Jun 2014
  First impressions aren’t everything, but they really help. Check this article out for some psychologically backed suggestions on how to get people feeling positive towards you from the very start.
• [article] Approach anxiety - step one to shaking it off — 29 May 2014
  The title says it. Suffer from approach anxiety? Don’t worry, we all do. Whether you’re trying to meet your next partner or network at an event, talking to strangers is hard yakka. In this article, we introduce you to the basic reasons behind that jittery feeling and give you a couple tools that’ll help you work up the courage next time.
• [article] What's an anxiety disorder and why should you care? — 17 May 2014
  General anxiety disorder affects about 3 people in 20 every year. That’s a lot. Chances are you’re friends with someone who has it. Why though? What causes it? In this article, we go over the ins and outs of GAD in a simplistic way, so you can relate to people with this diagnosis and understand them better.
• [article] What everyone ought to know about Jealousy — 13 May 2014
  Jealousy isn’t really that complicated when it comes down to it. Makes us ‘protect’ our loved ones. But from what? And can we control it? In this article, we talk about the specifics of jealousy, when it pops up and just how much control we really have.
• [article] What's the deal with cheaters? — 8 May 2014
  In this article, I talk about what makes people more likely and less likely to cheat. Want to know the answer to ‘once a cheater, always a cheater’? Well, so do we, but we talk about that too. If you’re worried your partners messing around, this article will give you the low down on what kind of person is likely to do it and how you can stop it from happening.
• [article] What's the value of Friendship (hint - it's more important thank you think) — 4 May 2014
  Friendship is something that is super important to people. In our movies and in books, it’s one of the major plot points. In our lives, it’s one of the major things we seek. In this article, I cover what makes friendships golden and how you can improve the quality of your own.
• [article] The secret to sexual satisfaction (and it's not what you've been told) — 28 Apr 2014
  Wondering what creates sexual satisfaction? Why some people seem to have it and some don’t? In this article I talk about the psychology behind sexual satisfaction and what the real secret to it is.
• [article] Fighting with your friend or partner? Here's why — 25 Apr 2014
  Drawing on some of the stuff we’ve already learned (linked at the top of the page), we start to get an even better grasp on just what causes fights in relationships and how we can go about stopping them from happening in the first place. Check this article out for some real depth!
• [article] Are homosexuals and heterosexuals different when it comes to relationships? — 22 Apr 2014
  We talk about a lot of really basic, fundamental concepts here at The Dirt Psychology especially about how romance and love work. What I get asked is whether it all applies to homosexuals too? In this article, I answer that question so you don’t have to wonder
• [article] Five kinds of arguments that get us nowhere — 18 Apr 2014
  There are five patterns of arguing are both particularly common and particularly problematic. Invariably, they end badly.
• [article] Four common problems men and women have when talking to each other — 15 Apr 2014
  Men and women are typically not so different. But, when it comes to communication, certain common patterns of communication breakdown do seem to have gendered origins. Here, we explore them.