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• [article] Coming together - the pattern of friendship and love — 12 Jun 2018
  Making and keeping our connections to others remains one of the fundamental arts we learn in life. And having a stickybeak into other people’s relationships is one of the fundamental past times. But if there’s one thing psychologists are good at, it’s identifying patterns in the way people behave. In that spirit, this model describes the process of people coming together used in the counselling office and by counsellors people-watching over coffee that’s quite beautiful.
• [article] Learned helplessness is darker (and less understood) than you think — 3 May 2018
  As a psychological theory, ‘learned helplessness’ has an even worse origin story than the grittiest Batman reboot you can imagine. But the story also has a deeper meaning that’s often lost in the telling.
• [article] The most powerful way to get someone to like you, is to like them first — 23 Apr 2018
  One of our most powerful urges is to be liked. Strange to find, then, that one of the most powerful influences on our likeability is whether others think we like them—‘reciprocal liking’.
• [article] Sexual Attraction - What turns us on in others? — 20 Mar 2018
  Evolutionary psychologists have a perspective on sexual attraction that is discomfiting, but revealing.
• [article] Why your unconscious isn't the bad guy — 24 Jan 2018
  So many of the self-improvement soundbites that are written and rewritten in our media feeds revolve around the idea that freedom comes from unchaining ourselves from the routines of the everyday. But, something very valuable gets lost in these pithy reminders.
• [article] How being clumsy makes you better looking (according to psychologists) — 6 Oct 2017
  If you’re anything like me (and here’s hoping you aren’t), then you might be delighted to hear that your inability to walk through life unaccompanied by the sounds of various clatters and clangings could actually make you look a little better looking in the eyes of others.
• [article] Why polygamy might be more natural than you thought — 8 Mar 2017
  Most theories of relationships centre on the idea that humans are well-suited for, and biologically disposed toward forming ‘pair-bonds’. But these traditional anthropological and evolutionary perspectives on sex are facing a growing threat from a more recent contender. The idea that human promiscuity is our natural state and community-style lovin’ better explains the state of our modern sexuality.
• [article] The Friendship Checklist — 20 Feb 2017
  Friendships are based on many of the same building blocks of intimacy as romance. In fact, up to a point, friends travel the same cognitive road as our lovers do. But friends can be more satisfying than our spouses, and more enjoyable, according to research. All this begs the question, what the hell is a friend and why are they so awesome?
• [article] Four ways to be attractive (and one you've probably overlooked) — 22 Jan 2017
  What is attraction? Usually, we just think of it as what turns us on. But interpersonal attraction is so much bigger than this. At its core, attraction is the inclination to chase the good feeling you get from someone else. It’s the word we use to describe what draws people together. And, it has aspects that are often overlooked.
• [article] How being selfish can make people like you more — 8 Jan 2017
  <p>For some reason, <a rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank" class="external-link" href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Benjamin_Franklin">Benjamin Franklin</a> is known for doing, like, everything first. This is no exception. This little brain quirk is …
• [article] Why the best part of your brain is hiding under the stairs — 28 Nov 2016
  It’s said that art mimics nature, and in this case, the result is absolutely fascinating. Also, I make a Harry Potter reference. Let’s talk about how your brain is like the cupboard under the stairs.
• [article] Your brain leaves you open to manipulation — 23 Nov 2016
  Mind control is less common than TV would have you believe, but it can happen. Problem is, the kinds of shortcuts our brain uses to speed things up leaves up open to manipulation. The phenomenon we call ‘priming’ is a good example.
• [article] What do dreams really mean? — 21 Nov 2016
  <p>I bet you’ve heard stories of ‘prophetic dreams’. Or maybe you’ve had one yourself. Well, if you’re here, you probably want to know what the science says.</p> <h2 id="dreams-as-a-psychological-tool">&lt;a href=“#dreams-as-a-psychological-tool“ class=“head…
• [article] Four definitions of attractiveness that'll change how you view it — 15 Jul 2016
  What is attraction? Usually, we just think of it as what turns us on. But attraction is so much bigger than this. Attraction is the word we use to describe what draws people together. In this post, we give you an overview of what attraction really means and how you can manipulate it for your personal, social and romantic success.
• [article] Take action - be more creative (and other things) — 1 Jun 2016
  <h2 id="the-weekly-dispatch"><a href="#the-weekly-dispatch" class="heading-permalink" aria-hidden="true" title="Heading Permalink">¶</a>The <a href="https://btr.mt/analects/poverty-stops-performance-and-other-things">Weekly Dispatch</a></h2> <p>We curate …